What Kind of Mate Are You? – excogitate
On Dating and Relationships: Women and Romance: Part 2: Artisan Women · Women and Romance: Part 3: Idealist Women · Women and Romance: Part 4. I have noticed many NFs claiming that they find relationships with we NTs to Idealist - Artisan: Idealists thoroughly enjoy their Artisan mates'. All interpersonal relationships face similar challenges. Idealists recognize the importance of sitting with and exploring their values and emotional The Artisan who feels trapped or taken advantage of will be resistant and desire escape.
Reconfirm each other's roles and ask the Guardian to develop a new way to delegate responsibility in the relationship if you want more freedom for yourself. Guardians expectations are often quite traditional. Many Guardians' are strong on commitment and may be ready to commit sooner than others.
Ignoring their ideas without listening or attacking reason as a way to understand interpersonal interactions, will leave them cold.
Never stop thinking and never ever stop learning.
Rationals also need to make allowances for others here. Most people do not have the same talent or get the same energizing feeling from analyzing, maximizing and redesigning a relationship. Engage the Rationals' ideas and explicitly ask them to come up with new ones if you disagree. They may not go somewhere in a relationship if they feel incompetent at it and detest when others try to think for them.
The Artisan who feels trapped or taken advantage of will be resistant and desire escape. Similarly, Artisans can become impatient when others do not act fast enough or act awkwardly, and in their desire to move forward they may end up going their own way or grabbing for themselves the very opportunities the other person needs.
Artisans are keenly interested in your motives in a situation, and they want to know what you want in a relationship so they can give that to you. Rationals and Idealists Sorry I've taken so long to post this. I can blame two distractions: I've been delving into her book and ideas, and I can't wait to share her findings-- very exciting stuff! But for now, here's the post about personality theory I've promised I remember when I was young, maybe 11 or 12, how I used to imagine what my "soulmate" would be like.
I used to walk through my day, speaking to him in my mind. I used to pretend that he was just outside the window, and that he could hear my thoughts. Naturally, I imagined that he was responding to my needs perfectly.
And I intuitively "knew" that I'd know him when I found him. For Idealists members of Keirsey's Idealist temperament, or those with NF in their Myers-Briggs personality typethe soulmate bond is more than having common interests, more than enjoying time spent together, more than a chemical attraction, even more than best friends. A soulmate is one's other half. When together, they create a whole. They are part of each other.
Temperament and Relationship Success
Once found and devotion confessed, they would be together forever. Always keeping each other as first priority. I'm sure you Idealists are vigorously nodding your heads right about now, while others of you are thinking "whoa!
And, I always believed since girlfriends and movies and books all seemed to provide sufficient evidence that everyone wanted the same thing from their mate. The truth is that all personality types Idealists, Rationals, Guardians, and Artisans are mostly "self" centered.
That is, although we recognize that others have different interests, beliefs, and values, we tend to assume that others basically think the same way we do. If we aren't aware there are other ways of seeing the world, what else can we think, really? And, we know what that means, right? Let's take a look at Idealist and Rational pairings. SPs rarely look for perfection in their relationships; are tolerant and adaptable.
Artisans satisfy their hunger for action with physical activities. Male SPs often tinker with tools of all kinds and spend large amounts of time pursuing sports activities. Female SPs enjoy sports, also.Intuitor Feelers Always Focus on... (NF Temperament)
They often move from one project to another: SPs enjoy unexpected guests and love to share all things created. They are likely to enjoy attractive vehicles and homes and devote time and energy to preserving their looks. The Artisan can mate easily with all the types, especially if the sexual compatibility is strong.
Love / Sex / Dating
SPs generally view sex as recreational. Guardians are loyal, dependable, hard-working, nurturing. They provide a firm foundation for society and families. They strive to be the best wife or husband; family-orientation defines their biggest contribution to relationships.
SJs are more aware of and follow social etiquette more strictly than any other type. SJs require time to make mating decisions, but once the decision has been made, the Guardian becomes very serious about creating a proper home. Guardians enjoy entertaining family and belonging to community organizations.
They may be possessive of their family members; are usually careful with money; generally dress conservatively; can be worriers. Guardians approach sex in a conservative, routine manner. They may have difficulties understanding the emotional needs of other types, especially Idealists and Rationals, for whom transactions outside the bedroom are vital as foreplay to sexual response.
They care deeply about their loved ones.