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Of being deprived and in pain Basic Desire: To be satisfied and content—to have their needs fulfilled Enneagram Seven with a Six-Wing: Want to maintain their freedom and happiness, to avoid missing out on worthwhile experiences, to keep themselves excited and occupied, to avoid and discharge pain. The Meaning of the Arrows in brief When moving in their Direction of Disintegration stressscattered Sevens suddenly become perfectionistic and critical at One.
However, when moving in their Direction of Integration growthgluttonous, scattered Sevens become more focused and fascinated by life, like healthy Fives. Learn more about the arrows. They are bold and vivacious, pursuing what they want in life with a cheerful determination.
Their thinking is anticipatory: Sevens are not necessarily intellectual or studious by any standard definition, although they are often intelligent and can be widely read and highly verbal. Their minds move rapidly from one idea to the next, making Sevens gifted at brainstorming and synthesizing information. Sevens are exhilarated by the rush of ideas and by the pleasure of being spontaneous, preferring broad overviews and the excitement of the initial stages of the creative process to probing a single topic in depth.
Devon, a successful business woman, shares with us some of the inner workings of her Seven mindset. For example, I was at a concert where the tickets were hard to get and very expensive. My mind was torturing me with the things I needed to do.
Finally, I had to get up and leave. This was very upsetting to the person I went with and I missed a good show.
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This is true both of their ability to absorb information language, facts, and procedures and their ability to learn new manual skills—they tend to have excellent mind-body coordination, and manual dexterity typewriting, piano playing, tennis. All of this can combine to make a Seven into the quintessential "Renaissance person. Because they are able to pick up many different skills with relative ease, it becomes more difficult for them to decide what to do with themselves.
As a result, they also do not always value their abilities as they would if they had to struggle to gain them. When Sevens are more balanced however, their versatility, curiosity, and ability to learn can lead them to extraordinary achievement.
The root of their problem is common to all of the types of the Thinking Center: As with Fives and Sixes, this creates a deep anxiety in Sevens. They do not feel that they know what to do or how to make choices that will be beneficial to themselves and others. Male 4s Male 4s are complex in that they have the single-minded masculine drive to initiate and conquer but it is tempered by a great deal of emotional sensitivity due to the 4 need for depth, connection, admiration and validation.
This sensitivity makes the 4 aware of nuances others miss but also creates painful self-consciousness and self-doubt that undermines their self-confidence.
Male 4s are often poets and troubadours that express what they feel and in so doing, frequently express what we all feel. This proved to be very true for both Michael and Prince. So, their simultaneous rise to fame in the 80s reinforced the power of raw edgy creativity, laced with refinement, subtlety and heartfelt emotions. Emotional Creativity Going the route of the power ballad was an absolute given in the s even if you were in a hard rock band.
The raw emotional truth of the ballad voiced universal pain. For most hardcore rock bands, ballads were often career defining. Both Michael and Prince loved ballads but not in the traditional way. Rather than an occasional ballad, their feelings were infused in every piece of their music, from the raw energy of pop rock to the tender sensibility of emotional expression.
Michael and Prince were able to express their wide range of emotions in such a poetic way that listeners could identify with both their music and their lyrics. Prince was famous for being self-conscious and was portrayed as image conscious. It is also the title of a movie in which Prince starred.
So to introduce himself to the mainstream audience as fragile and occasionally cruel could have killed his rising career. This probably took great courage. This raw honesty and is another hallmark of 4.
Sexual 4s deny their fear of rejection and reject first to manage their distress. They can be counter-envious and shameless if they are experiencing an intense emotion.
They claim their position as the state of longing feels unbearable. Prince was always front and center, inspiring devotion and disgruntlement. The 4s innate ability to demonstrate compassion for those that are suffering is a gift. Michael Jackson and Prince had that gift in spades. They were true humanitarians and did a great deal to support those that were suffering throughout the world. Both had an interest in helping children. There is so much I could say about both men.
Rivalry It is reported that Michael and Prince had a bitter rivalry. One report is that Michael was disappointed that Prince rebuffed his friendly efforts to be friends. Whatever the case may be, they were first and foremost performers and artists. The performer that is a 4 is every bit as competitive as the performer that is the 3 or any of the other types. In fact, 4 envy may have been at the heart of their rumored rivalry. Both men were constantly compared to one another.
Both had diversity in their music, including: Both were shy and reclusive. Facts on their potential rivalry Michael Jackson vs. However, recent interviews with former Prince band members shared a friendlier side. Michael walks out with his bodyguard, and Prince starts strutting around like a rooster. Did you see that? He played like Helen Keller.
Both Michael and Prince were known to be competitive and perfectionistic.
All true artists are not only competitive; they are perfectionistic about their work. They honed their craft and wanted to deliver the experience they envisioned. This is essential for any artist that wants to stay at the top of their field. But the sexual 4 is known for their competitive nature and hatred as a means for overcoming feelings of envy and inadequacy. And, the s are known for their sunny dispositions and gentle nature.
Michael Jackson I see Michael as the social Tritype, which has a mystical, magical, ethereal, soothing, and healing quality to it. The energy is very receptive and accepting, like a gentle spirit. Even in his counter culture roles he was soft. If you watch Michael in any interview, it is easy to see that Michael had an overall countenance of fragile gentleness. He gave off the aura of someone that needed too be cared for and protected.
He was bashful, refined and introspective like the introverted and inhibited social 4 often is. You can see his gentle, smiling and ethereal nature in the interview with Oprah. I never feel like I belong or have enough class and breeding to be included with those I am impressed with.
I never quite find my people, and often feel left out. Both love fantasy and the unusual as well as the new, the novel and the creative. It also brings a need for variety, as well as positive and upbeat interactions. Michael felt like he lost his childhood to his career. He began working as a little boy as the lead singer in the family business of the Jackson 5.
He had a hard driving, abusive father that relentlessly had his sons rehearse so there was no time for childhood activities. Michael loved the attention his career and success provided but he still longed for the happy childhood he did not have.
He is said to have been sad about his childhood so wanted to recreate his childhood with more joyous memories by having all the things he felt he missed and wanted as a child. His focus was to create happier experiences and new memories.
This is often indicative of the type 4 especially with the Tritype.
The focus for all 4s is on what is missing and perceived to be valuable and out of reach. The is the 4 that hides their sadness because they fear people will reject them if they show it.
Both 7 and 9 are happy characters on the Enneagram. This is why the 4 with the Tritype is considered the happy, positive 4. His approach to music was always innovative and changing. His love of the unusual could be seen in his Neverland Ranch in Santa Barbara. Neverland was the epitome of the love of fantasy and idealism. Walt Disney, shared the same Tritype only with 7 in the lead. As thehe created Disneyland based on the same love of fantasy, joy and idealism.
The is magical, mystical, unusual, creative, individualistic, gentle, harmonizing and enduring. The 9s need for okness combined with the 7s need for joy makes this 4 focus on more fantastical idealized circumstances. Michael, due to his wealth, could indulge his fantasies. The Tritype is very much like Peter Pan; they are forever young at heart with a childlike sense of wonder. Neverland was his home and his private amusement park.
You could also see the touch of fantasy in his attire. He dressed like a character in a play or in a circus, and matched the look and feel of his amusement Park. His clothing was creative, stylized, theatrical and beautifully embellished with details. He often set fashion trends. His silver glove, born of aesthetic necessity to hide the lack of pigment on his hand due to vitiligo, a disease that causes the loss of skin color in blotches became a fashion statement. He was known for his trademark jackets.
The 9 can be seen in his gentleness, kindness, stubbornness and avoidance of conflict. He also appeared to be very elusive and passive. We can see the 9 and 7 in the way he described himself to his friend, Jason Pfeiffer. Jason, in a Noise11 interview said that Michael thought his daughter Paris had picked up his traits of being stubborn, intelligent and mischievous as well as his lust for life, laughing and being the center of attention.
We can see the 4 and 9 in his withdrawn and quiet side, which amplified his shyness and feelings of inhibition. His social instinct could be seen in his focus on others.
One example is the building of the amusement park and then bringing children to enjoy it. An amusement park is a social activity. It is a place where people come together to enjoy themselves. So he recreated the ideal childhood experience and shared it with others. This is what he felt he missed as a child even though he came from a large family, he felt lonely. He debuted with the Jackson 5 when he was at the tender age of 6.
It is a social subtype song as it is about helping others and recognizing that we are all one big family.Challenges for Enneagram Type 6 in Relationship: The Loyal Skeptic
Fun facts about Michael Michael has two stars in Hollywood, one with the Jackson 5 and one for his solo career. He won 8 Grammy Awards in and was declared the most famous person in the world in Prince I see Prince as the sx Tritype. The is also a mystical and magical Tritype like the as both share the 4 and 7. However, with 8 in this Tritype the is driven by the raw, intense, authentic, edgy, innovating and the powerful. They are more grounded and less ethereal. This Tritype takes a deep dive into whatever captures their interest.
They amass so much data on a subject that intrigues them that they become experts. The self-revealing humanitarian side shapes what they have learned into a message they then share with others. This Tritype of 4 is constantly changing, innovating and evolving. The 7 in his tritype can be seen with his love of and use of color, diversity and a need to be positive. He is said to have had disdain for drama. He stated in the Larry King Interview that he was always focused on what is now and that he did not look back.
This 4 is the most self-confident 4. The sexual 4 is focused on being inspirational. So they express their feelings through creative outlets. The 8 in his Tritype can be seen in his expressions and attitude. You can also see 8 in the way he toys with his interviewers. He had a sardonic sense of humor. In the Larry King interview he toys with Larry about a word that Larry made up.
Prince asked Larry if that was a word. Prince was extremely articulate in all of his interviews. Michael was as well. We can see the 4 and 8 in his piercing intensity.
He exaggerated his hair and make up. He was flashy but refined and elegant at the same time. He was described as flamboyant, but with my experience of 4s, I learned that they hate that terms flamboyant and gaudy and prefer creative, intense, bold and colorful instead. So my guess is that he did not like that characterization of his look. We can see the 7 and 8 in his autonomy and dry sense of humor.
Type Six: The Loyal Skeptic
He focuses on the romantic and the sexual, weaving them together with ecstasy, pain and suffering. As a sexual 4, Prince did this with intimates or by selecting a charitable cause that touched him personally in some way. He was an anonymous charitable donor. The does not need as much validation as the other 4s as they feel more self-possessed due to the 8 in the Tritype.
They can still be shy and inhibited but they do not have as much self-doubt and shine once they feel more at ease. Everything Prince did had his signature look and a very personal touch.
He designed his symbol that represented his emancipation from his limiting Warner contracts. The Lenox china plates had piano keys around the edge of the plate with a gilt gold edge along with his insignia, his symbol for Prince united with an M in the middle for his beloved Mayte. His lyrics were very intimate, sexual and deeply personal.
In the song he is trying to understand why he is left standing alone. It is raw and vulnerable. This is another hallmark of the 4 as 4s repetitively over-analyze their emotions to make sense of their pain and give meaning to their suffering. His could be seen in the look and feel of his attire. This Tritype loves the pirate look, leather and lace, creative innovation, adornment, opulent beautiful fabrics and edgy elegance. He had a personal style that was individualistic and enduring.
It combined a unique presentation of his trademark purple with a touch of seduction, subtle sexiness and mystery. He began performing in a nightclub in Minneapolis and signed his first contract for a demo at Stevie Wonder, who could play 8 instruments, inspired Prince. So young Prince made a name for himself by being able to play 27 instruments. In he landed a recording contract at the age of He won an academy award for best original song score in at the age of He was insanely prolific and played all 27 instruments on his debut record, For Y A little more on Prince Friends of Prince have reported that he was very compassionate.
Van said that if you were down on your luck Prince called. He rehearsed songs so he could play what he felt like. He loved performing and jamming and often played 3 gigs in a night. True, creative genius that never stopped changing… Writer, singer, dancer, played all instruments, conductor, producer, actor. When Prince was on the Arsenio Hall Show and appeared on most of the one-hour late-night program, his aura was perforated even more cleanly.
The show began with an interview between Prince and Arsenio Hall. Prince showed his humor and answered all the questions he was asked. This is the side of Prince his friends all knew. Both Michael Jackson and Prince had painful childhoods. Both had suffered loss. Both had witnessed and experienced harsh discipline at the hands of their fathers. Both loved their mothers. Both men were amazing examples of the 4 with 7 in the Tritype.
They tried to focus on the positive but expressed their pain through their music. They both loved beauty and adornment, and designed clothing with embellished details. They were both sensitive and inhibited introverts but they were innovative, magical and inspiring. They were dynamic, creative and individualistic trendsetters. They were legends in their own time and their music will live on. They both have left deep and lasting imprints. The 9 Languages of Enneagram Type" inthe Type 6 consistently struggled with confirming their true type.
They identified with all 9 Enneagram Types. The more counter-phobic 6 would initially type themselves as Type 8, the shy introverted and smart 6 routinely typed themselves as Type 5, the perfectionist Type 6 would type themselves as Type 1 and so on. When interviewed, the 6s regularly state that, "It depends on the situation" when making a decision rather than just answering a question with yes or no. Not only do 6s have trouble identifying that they are the type 6, they tend to see themselves and others in contradicting terms.
This is why the Type 6 is often described as the Devil's Advocate. They also tend to track behaviors rather than motivations in an effort to be safe from potential hidden agendas or being mislead Their reason is that they know they can answer yes sometimes and no at other times, yes When interviewed they were able to discover that they were in fact, a 6 once they could hear themselves repeatedly stating that the phrase "it depends in the situation".
In addition, 6s also state that they are wary of tests in general and tend to be somewhat evasive because they are not sure how their answers will be used. As a result, they may try to "fool" the test. Also, they tend to answer questions with the answer "sometimes" because don't want to be too extreme. The often feel that a yes or not answer without a qualifier is too declarative.
Moreover, most people love to be the center of attention, and Sexual Twos know this, lavishing the other with attention, affection, and praise. In this sense, they are seductive-getting others interested in spending time with them by making the other their object of adoration.
Sexual Twos also like to touch and be touched by the people they are drawn to, often initiating physical contact in a relationship—even in a friendship.
When less balanced, Sexual Twos can become obsessed with a lover and can have great difficulty letting go of a relationship. LifeExplore Tend to act seductive and aggressive by turns. Basic interest is in finding romantic union. Generally confuse sexual desirability with being loved and valued.
Act receptively interested in others, use inviting touches. May ooze some combination of charm and sexuality. When they encounter resistance will begin to push and challenge. Try to find a way around the other's objection. May go militant and angrily blame connection to 8. Behind these flare-ups is a melancholy desire for total enmeshed connectedness to another. Yearning is related to the low side of 4. They fear being left out of social events and gatherings, so they try to make themselves indispensable to whatever groups they are involved with.
They often become advisors, mentors, matchmakers, and social-event coordinators for many people in their lives. They enjoy introducing people to one another and generally act as the "social hub" of whatever they are involved with.
They derive great satisfaction from giving advice to trusted friends and often initiate new relationships by offering some kind of service or counsel. Social Twos have a subtle "radar" for people in need of a sympathetic audience and may appear with a smile and some kind words.