INTJ, INFP, INTP, INFJ Relationships, Compatibility, & the Inferior Function
By Dr. A.J. Drenth. Like other personality types, Intuitive Introverts can struggle with finding strong matches in their relationships, often wondering if true love and . This section INFJ-INTJ relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. When INTJs and INFJs meet, a unique kind of chemistry happens. This is why the INTJ and INFJ personalities are magnetically drawn to each.
Sexually, the INTJ enjoys thinking about intimacy, and about ways to perfect it.
In positive relationships, their creativity and intensity shine through in this arena. In more negative relationships, they might enjoy thinking about sex more than actually doing it.
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They're likely to approach intimacy from a theoretical, creative perspective, rather than as an opportunity to express love and affection. Although, the INTJ who has learned the importance of these kinds of expressions to the health of their relationship is likely to be more verbally affectionate. INTJs are able to leave relationships when they're over, and get on with their lives.
They believe that this is the right thing to do.
They may have more difficulty accomplishing the task than they like to exhibit to other people. INTJs are highly intense, intelligent people who bring a lot of depth and insight into most major areas of their life. In terms of relationships, their greatest potential pitfall is the tendency to think about things rather than doing them, and their difficulty reconciling reality with their inner visions.
INTJs are likely to be in positive, healthy relationships, because they're likely to leave relationships which aren't working for them unless other circumstances prohibit that. INTJ's dominant function of Introverted Intuition is best matched with a partner whose personality is dominated by Extraverted Intuition.
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How did we arrive at this? Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality combination will have its unique set of challenges.
We will look at each of the 4 preferences individually: Introversion-Introversion Joys Introverts have a natural mutual respect of each other's private time and space; both will know the need for the occasional solitude and quiet.
In recreation, both enjoy that alone time and at the most with a close group of friends; both do not like big social gatherings or parties. If they have a common interest, introverts will enjoy those long, deep meaningful conversations they can have with one another. Both are naturally good listeners; they will enjoy taking turns to share and asking questions to one another. Struggles Without a common interest, they may find it challenging to keep the conversation going.
In a short while, they may find they run out of things to talk about. Because both enjoy the silence so much, they may take communication for granted and not share their feelings with each other often enough.
May lack a support network if both do not belong to a community because of their lack of desire to socialize. Intuition-Intuition Joys Because both parties enjoy discussing big ideas, possibilities and global issues, they will usually find a certain attraction to each other. This is especially if they have similar viewpoints on certain issues, they will find chemistry with each other. To further illustrate these issues, I wished to conclude this post with a comment made by a reader, which is followed by a thoughtful response from my blogging sidekick Elaine Schallock: I am an INFP female age I married my ESTJ husband at age It was very much for me as you described.
Meeting him felt very nice at that time in my life, when I had no real direction and was floundering around. I loved how he came in and swooped me up, making decisions for me and giving my life a direction. I had become so used to denying myself and feeling there was something wrong with me.
Always giving in on every issue and not really having a voice of my own. He is a very forceful and dominant personality and after 14 yrs of marriage, I have lost myself. It has been a light at the end of the tunnel to make these discoveries and begin relearning myself.
Simply dusting everything off and really looking at my own needs and desires after all this time is a huge step for me. I realize I have a lot of digging out to do to get out from under the rubble and debris that has kept me entombed in this marriage for so long. It will be a long process to rebuild my life again. I truly wish this subject was more readily taught and discussed with young adults.
Just having a vague understanding could help so many people with life choices. Careers, choosing a mate, raising children, communicating with spouses, extended family relationships are all things where personality differences come into play. The more educated someone is about the personalities that surround them, the more likely they will be successful in life and able to build a solid foundation around them.
Relationships become tinged with co-dependent behavior as the partners attempt to use one another to supply them with the inferior needs that they enviously wish they could provide for themselves.
This is how a love-hate relationship develops. If the psyche feels that the unconscious inferior function is gaining too much power, the dominant function will readily take extreme measures to wrestle back control, like when we overcorrect after our car accidentally veers into the wrong lane.
When we pair with our typological opposite without sufficient understanding of type dynamics or awareness of the powers of our unconscious over us, we put ourselves at great risk for experiencing this extreme tension and love-hate volatility in our relationships. Therefore, all of our unresolved issues with our tertiary and inferior functions become projected onto our partner and are acted out in our relationships — and usually in very destructive ways.
Typically, the things that initially draw opposite persons to one another end up being the same traits that create conflict and resentment down the road. The unconscious psyche, not one to be fooled easily, realizes that our partner is not an authentic or sufficient substitute for our own psychological growth. In fact, after this point of realization, the partner is actually perceived as a threat, as an obstacle to our further development.